5 questions to ask before marriage

Marriage is a wonderful emotion and each one of us gets the privilege to enjoy this chapter in our lives. Nobody states however it is factual that everyone desires to have that perfect life partner. Take the example of our parents, they might have not got a chance to speak to their life partner before marriage. Arrange marriage was a moment of fulfilment for the entire family, whereas love marriage was considered as humiliating for the family and relatives as well. However, time changes and we travel. Travelling took us to the 21^st century where a love marriage has become the global trend. Our people adopted foreign culture but for good. It is alright if you choose a partner as per your choice rather than marrying someone whom you don’t know. Also, marrying someone of our parents’ choice will not leave you disappointed if the opposite person is able to react to your 5 questions.

5 striking and life changing questions to be encountered with your would be partner:

1. Clear History without any Mystery;
2. Respect my parents. Will you?
3. I love my JOB
4. Discuss hobbies, future, ambitions, career, aim and DREAMS
5. Very important – will you marry me?

Before starting a new life, it is very important you clear your past and move ahead with the new person. Do not jump on sharing your past at the first meeting itself. At the beginning, try to know each other. Understand your partner, share your happiness, fear and slowly share your past. If your partner is a legible person, then surely he/ she will understand you and accept you for who you are. Don’t throw yourself on anyone. Sharing your past clears out a big lump from your throat, which you might stay on your wedding day and may be full life ahead making you uncomfortable all time. So share your past to avoid any surprises which are not pleasurable.

Our parents are the one who gave us birth, raised us and made us a good human being. Will you tolerate their disrespect. The answer is NO. You need not throw this question to your partner up front. With time you will come to know how the person is and whether he/ she will be able to be the same indifferent with both his/ her parents as well as in laws. It will be a difficult task, but not an difficult one. Your inner instinct will help you judge the person better.

If you are getting paid, then of course you love your job. This question applies to both of you. If you love your job, you cannot sacrifice the same for your post marriage life (for girls). Discuss boldly with your partner and tell him how imperative it is for you to continue the job. The importance could be her independence, self-respect, providing financial help to her parents. Being a boy you need to make sure she continues with her job and maintain a cordial relationship at home front. She will be doing the dual job at the office as well as home. So, dear boys, do not compel her to be over energetic all time. She can take rest too and a week off to visit her parents’ house. Ask her if she can handle both. She will answer yes, because she wants to work. You can help her to do daily chorus at home and this will reduce her work pressure. She will love you more and the kind of admiration you build for each other will be terrific.

An ambitious partner is a good sign, but a partner without any ambitious or dreams is a menace. Discuss and share your dreams, hobbies, ambitions, future. This process will not only bring you both together, but also help each other in understanding as well. The prominence of such conversation is to know each other from all sorts.

Last but not the least, when you land up discoursing all 4 questions and if you are pleased with the responses you have got, then, my friend, this is the time to throw the beautiful and much awaited question – will you marry me? It is not imperative who asks the question first. The key aspect is whether you will be happy marrying this person. Become best friends to each other and live life to the fullest. Share joy, grief, fight with your partner, equally hug your partner when he/ she is in pain, share funny moments, travel with your partner, cry, laugh, enjoy the first rain with your partner, give birth to your love and life will go on happily ever after.