“Loving someone is very different from the heady feeling of being “in love,” which is, frankly, just temporary insanity”, says Barton Goldsmith, the author of The Happy Couple: How to Make Happiness a Habit One Little Loving Thing at a Time.
True indeed.
Keeping your relationship ticking in this fast-paced-internet-dominated-world is getting difficult by the day. Most of our time goes into scrolling through Instagram or Facebook stories. And if there is still time, there are viral videos or online series too. One thing leads to the other and hours fly by so easily just switching through computer screens.
There are many things that internet is damaging, relationships being one of them. Make sure you’re following these things among many others to keep your relationship goals active.
Go to bed together
It’s not always possible to wake-up together but you can control the timings when you sleep to make sure you go to bed together. This gives you a good amount of couple time away from the daily life stress. You may use this time to discuss, share or simply chill. Bedtime talks are essential because they help you reflect back with a tranquil mind.
Give a break to your Mobiles
Telephones eat-up most of our time. That little beep to indicate the arrival of messages or emails is powerful enough to keep you glued to your favorite gadget for hours. When both of you are together, make sure you turn off your Smartphone or any gadget that might distract you from having a genuine conversation with your partner.
Try to squeeze-in something fun during your free hours
Do not always let those free hours pass by, try to fix-up dance classes, cooking classes or fitness sessions for both of you. It’s always good to be able to share a hobby together or learn a new skill. This will not only help you bond better but will also act as a big-time stress-buster for both of you.
Watch your favorite TV series together
Even if you have to include internet or technology in your routine, include it in a way that it ultimately becomes a part of your couple time. Make it a habit to watch a film or television series together, listen to songs, watch funny videos, or find profiles of people you can bitch about together (if you can’t find anything else) and make internet a way of coming closer rather than separating your lives.
Talk and don’t text
Okay, so let me clarify, it’s a good idea to occasionally send messages filled with generous amount of sugar and cheese but do not use texts as a medium to have serious discussions with your partner. Texting keeps us away from the context and the real tone of the person sending the message. It pushes us into reaching a quick conclusion. While talking face-to-face helps you take control of the situation if needed, texts are an easy way to escape the situation. Choose real-time talks to resolve matters and communicate feelings, texts may spoil the motive.
Whichever way you prefer, whichever strategy you go for, remember that your relationship is way above the masala that the internet has sprinkled all over the web, so spice that up.
