Why Divorce Rates Are On The Rise?

Now-a-Days we hear a lot many divorce cases taking place everyday. But have we ever thought of the reasons behind this alarming rise in the number of divorce cases in India?

If we sit down and think logically, then there are several reasons that can be cited behind the alarming rise in the divorce rates. Like for example, financial freedom of today's Indian women (as most of them are working women), greater acceptance of divorced daughters by their families in urban areas, professional rivalry between husband and wife, the loneliness associated with nuclear families, and the increasing number of double income no kids couples who do not have any fear related to how the divorce is going to affect their children all contribute to this rise in divorce rate.

what do you think ?

 

You have the question and so do the Answer

What you wrote is exactly right. I completely agree with it.

Now provide the solution also.

I think i have solution for all the problems india infact world is facing by some hook or crook. but dealing at a personal level is very difficult. understand a relationship is very very difficult. getting into a woman's mind is far more difficult.

Only thing is we should make sure that nobody gets hurt in the process. before they take divorce may be an year counselling is provided to children so that they can start adjusting to the new way of life.

Damn it! I prefer to live in a poor sick India than to live in a divorce rich India, where my culture is getting destroyed. Hope i die before Mother India becomes a divorcee

 

I agree with all the above points. To add to these factors Media is also a big villain...acting as a catalyst....focusing on the wrong things just to increase TRP ratings.

 

Simple reason for the increasing divorce rate is. 1. In the past if any problem rises in the family men can take divorce or other ways of entertainment from outside but women were bound to bear all the atrocities. 2.Now the situation is changed and women are brave enough to quit husband or family.

Conclusion is when husband was the controller of divorce ,the rate was low and when both are controlling the case ,rate of divorce will definitely high. How many will vote me!

 

i think it is mass problem. if we recover from this problem we are trying to understand one another by patiently. Number two trying to give time to his family by both of them. No. three it is to need to respect the family members of both families and some more. above all it is need to co-operative attitude...

 

Divorce is the result of complete lack of understanding between the couple and it has nothing to do with concept of new generation specially ladies being employed....we cannot blame a husband nor a wife .Marriage is an two wheeler vehicle which works good if both the wheels are intact. Divorce rates can be seen more prominently among newly married couples who do not give time to understand each other,both try to dominate each other ,males do not let his wife to be how she was before marriage and try to influence her life in every way as per his will and wish which imposes an feeling of insecurity among the educated women ,and takes away trust factor from each other.Divorce rate is also seen increased where both fail to communicate with each other ,whenever bad feeling occurs among them instead of supporting each other they try to win over other , they forget that loving is more important then winning. In some cases family members are responsible to worsen the situation and increase divorce rate.Mother always wants his son to be as before and feels insecure when new girl enters a family and hidden game of impressing and proving to be more loving starts among wife and mother in law ,which results in frequent quarrels.Marriage is worship which can be easily achieved with love,and love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get its all about what you are expected to give which is everything.

 

Yes,I fully agree with you.If rise in divorce rate is a sign of liberation of women from the humiliating subjugation of women through ages ,I welcome it wholeheartedly.I think it is men who should bring a change in their attitude if divorce rates are to come down.

 

Marriage is a man made institution. we should come out of this cocoon mentally. live a life free from such institutions. There shall be no divorce.

 

More awareness

One can't deny the fact that India is a male dominated society, earlier husbands use to supress their wives in lieu of maraige but today, so is not the case...Women today are very well aware of their rights, they simple cant tolerate injustice and inreasonable demands from their in laws... Since they are educated and independent, they choose to walk on their own self made path.... Plus, not to forget, infidelity is also rising at an alarming rate....

 

Of course, Divorce cases are on the increase. It does not mean that those women who wishes to be divorced are on the increase. It only means more women are coming forward to get divorced from their cruel, selfish husband and in-laws, who wishes to keep their wives/daughters-in-law like slaves after taking all their belongings. Now women are more educated, more emancipated and more conscious of their rights. They are also more economically strong. So they are not prepared to blame their fate and lead a life at the Mercy of their husbands/in-laws as mostly done by women of their previous generation. That is why Divorce cases are on the increase.Days the husband and his parents taking an upper hand in all affairs are over .Family bonding should be on LOVE and at equal footing for both husband and wife and their parents.

The present problem is while the girls wish live in present century, the husbands and their parents still like to hang on to 18Th and 19Th century.

 

CLARIFICATION:

THIS IS MY OWN VIEWS AND OBSERVATIONS, NEITHER TO HARM ANY PART OF SOCIETY NOR TO ANY GENDER SO PLS TAKE IT LIGHLY AND THINK ON IT!


Dear Rajan,

Thanks posting nice article on Internet and I appreciate as Sr. man having successful marriage life of 25 years.

I fully agree what ever you said and those women has rights to get divorce, if it is happening with them and society must help her to get it and get her remarry if it's her wish to do so!

I can agree in India, exploitations and discrimination is the reasons for divorce but what about in America and Europe!? even in Muslim countries it happens !

I think you have touched only one side of this problems but what about another problem which is more dangerous to our system and whole world!?

My experience is different then yours!. Since e-net and chat has come in to popularity, I have noticed so many marries are broken also! I have reasons to say so. If some of the women are not happy with marriage life! understood and they have rights to get divorce and remarry!.

BUT WHAT ABOUT THOSE WOMENS WHO ARE ALREADY MARRIED AND STILL HAVING LONG LIST OF FRIENDS AND THEY FLIRT WITH SO MANY PEOPLES AT THE SAME TIME IN THE NAME OF FRIENDSHIP!? WHOM THEY NEVER MEET NOR THEY HAVE SEEN EACH OTHERS!?

I am more worried about it as marriage system is breaking day by day on more alarming rate then discrimination in India and whole part of world !!! What ever happens in poor and illiterate families, I can understand that but at what % compare to net flirting!!?? it's very less!.

This system is not imposed by any one as it's widely accepted by any part of world and honored on their own way but it exists even today even in dense forest of Congo or even in desert or in lonly iceland!"

It applies to both sides but it's nature of man to flirt, when someone entertain that!

I will not comment much on this nor it's my intention to justify this flirting, but it's my humble effort to highlight at risk which is destroying our system day by day! What will be the future of those children who will be left abandan as their mother and father separated and hey don't want any relations due to their broader choice to choose new life partners due to net!?

Do we have rights to produce children then leave them abandon!???????????? Nope!!!!!! We don't have it!

Our "VEDAS" teaches us way of life including "GEETA"! But are we following our own culture! Nope!!! We just follow western culture who has destroyed their own life style and We!!!!!!? We just blame our own society!

It needs serious ground work and awareness program not only by Govt.! But also TRUE LEADERS of society.

Thanks and Regards.

champak

 

Hi all

I actually feel irritated when I get to know that women are considered culprit for the increased divorce rate.

What I feel is the fact that I think women had been sleeping from ages and men were happy to think that she is a companion with a caption'' no complaints, no demands' in other words they took her for granted.But now when women started fighting back for her rights, her liberty, her happiness, men are surprised and they cant accept it. Men harassed the women first as a father or brother and then as a husband. But she dint protested. Now she has gathered courage to fight against the wrong she has become unbearable for men hence divorce cases has been increased.

In short I would say earlier there was only one hand which was trying to clap now the hand on the other side is strong enough to make it a noisy clap.

What do you say?

 

There are many aspects to this.. but the net result is society pays a heavy price for divorce.

We only think of husband, wives, men women... but the ones who really pay the price are the children, the future generation.

They are not taken proper care nowadays because people have other selfish priorities. This means degradation of civilization as we know it.

So it is important both men and women get their act together.

Venkat

 

high rates of divorces is the human progress!only in the ancient time , they get married with one person and they would never get divorces although they have no emotions at all.

 

This is a very sensitive issue, I appreciate that this discussion is put in the forum. That is itself an evidence that the people are sensible and responsible about our society and social values. Such discussion will lead to develop the balancing factors in the society i.e. we initiate discussion, then we start realize the problem, and try to find-out solution, and start controlling them. But in society such controlling action can not be quick. It takes it own time…

As far as the divorce, this is a great concern. See the as the society is getting more and more modern and liberal. The freedom to women is more. So, wherever some mismatch is there within Husband-wife, they start thinking for separation. We should understand that Marriage is very serious, mature and responsible concept i.e. two people want to live together for rest of their life (at-least at the time of getting married). So, they should understand each other with their Negatives and Positives. After considering they should understand Marriage needs lots of Compromises. If both are ready for that and still want to live together then they should go for it. This whole matter is very import and both should be mature enough to understand and appreciate.

My suggestion is that there should be an organization, which do counseling of the couple ‘getting married’. During Counseling, the couple needs to taught about how to live together with-out getting over possessive. How to take care each other’s emotional, materialistic needs etc. Such activity was done earlier within the family, when the boys and girl were not so free to decide ‘getting married’ themselves.

I believe as women liberalization is getting more and more the maturity of women regarding the marriage is also developing. In future, I have hope. The only disappointing factor in it, is the developing of understanding take too much time. During this period, there would be lot of damages may happen due to irresponsible divorces….

I wish, people and families should enjoy the real happiness to be in family….

 

Hi Shekhar,

A very sensible and responsible suggestion. You have really given a sensible and realistic line to start a discussion on this grave subject. While discussing the divorce subject counselling, we should consider the following to start with :


- Well-being of the new found family without any negative interference of the parents (Both)

- Both the parents should have equal rights on guiding the youngsters with
love and affection.

- Both the partners should mutually decide, how to manage their income without dictating each-other. They should look-after and care their parents with equality. From the day of marriage it should be 'our parents' and not your and mine.

- Both parents as far as possible manage their affairs and depend on their married children the bare minimum. Each parent should consider the other with equality, love and understanding. etc.etc.

Positive suggestions welcome.

 

perhaps the women are now more aware of their rights.

 

I do agree with all reason but what i think personally that because of home violence women decided to take divorce, secondly there is a communication gap between two . They don,t have time to talk about their personal life

 

Everything comes at a cost.So is the woman emancipation. Like western society it has started taking heavy toll in Indian society too.Strained relations,stressed homes not withstanding twin earning, chasing the dreams and skies,confused and confounded children,insecurity ,loneliness and not the least ongoing legal battles for alimony,children and so on.....

Pangs of separation and the time slipping through fingers that won't return anyway.

Countries like India are blindly aping western culture forgetting the qualities of tolerance,accommodation ,adjustment, commitment, loyalty and sacrifice that goes in foundation of 'sweet home'.

There is no point in blaming anyone and any issue.Things are just happening.Indian society is being ripped apart in pursuit of imaginary triumph and self righteousness. it is also not important as to who abets to all this.The consequences are terrific.

 

Lack of adjustment, negligence and identity crisis!!

The men and women get married and suddenly they get separated and this problem is increasing rapidly. There are many factors behind the increase of the divorce rates. I personally think lack of adjustment, negligence, identity crisis, financial problems, family pressure and hindrances are some of the causes that lead the couple to sign the divorce papers. They found too difficult to share the room under the same roofs and hence cut shed the relationship.