Divorce is becoming common in India and is seen to be increasing and perhaps this is due to the increasing intolerance or perhaps the difference of opinion or perhaps the people are becoming too materialistic. Divorces are difficult not only for the couple but for the whole family. The children of the divorced couple are the ones who suffer the most, especially mentally. Here are some parenting tips after divorce. Act like an Adult: It is important that you behave maturely, especially infornt of your child as it may have a very bad impact on them. I understand that it is difficult to act like an adult when your ex-spouse does not but you will have to as you child is already going through a lot of emotional distress, this may even break them into pieces. Make your child feel that he/she can depend on you and this will be possible only if you behave in a mature way. Let your children known that it was not their fault: It has been witnessed that many children go through mental trauma after their parents are divorced and they start blaming themselves. You should let them know that it was never their fault and both of you love them more than anything. They may think that you’ll fall out of their love after getting divorced so it is important to make them feel their importance in your life and make them realize that they are not responsible for the divorce of their parents. Be consistent: It is important that you remain consistent and treat your children in the same way as you used to treat them before your divorce. It becomes really difficult to maintain home as well as work but you should try to keep the same rules and restrictions for children like before as a little change and relaxation can affect them adversely. By being consistent will not affect your children and help them overcome the trauma they are facing. Channelize your emotions in a better way: It has been witnessed that many people after divorce are unable to cope up with their emotional distress that they go through and indulge in activities like smoking, excessive intake of alcohol, partying till late night etc. These activities will not only affect your health but will also have an adverse effect on your children. So it is better to channelize your emotions in the right way. You can start off with exercising or may be call up a friend and talk or you can even indulge your self into some kind of productive activities and new hobbies. This will help you to remain healthy as well as will help your children as well to cope up with their emotional stress. Remain in touch with your ex: It is important that you remain in touch with your ex, although it might be difficult for you. It is only for the sake of your children you will have to sometimes talk with them and behave in a normal way so that they do not feel left out and feel their importance in your lives. Divorces changes the whole scenario of the family life that you might have been leading since quite some time but to become good parents and help your children grow up as better human beings, you will have to adapt several new things and I hope that these tips will be helpful in parenting your children.
