The moment a child is born, the happiness and joy of the parents reach sky high. And in the modern society, we can see that when the children start growing up, the anxiety and tensions of the parents also grow, along with happiness, love and care, of course. Through every stage that the child crosses, parents have their own list of worries chalked out. They start worrying about issues ranging from why their baby is not putting on weight, why the diet if the kid is fluctuating so much, which school is the best, and why just an A grade when it was A+ the last time... Sure, the world outside home is highly competitive and it requires a certain level of skills and confidence to survive in today’s social scenario. But parents who chase their kids to excel in everything they undertake are instead inflicting a negative impact on the character and overall personality of the child. Parents should realize that every single child is not a prodigy, but a different individual who has a different personality and comfort zone. Today what happens is that most of the parents see their own reflection in their children. They want their kids to fulfill the lost and unfulfilled dreams of their childhood. An over-enthusiastic mother can be seen sending her daughter to music, dance and guitar classes, just because she herself loves music and dance. But on the contrary, the child may be in love with painting or martial arts. Some parents constantly compare the performance of their kids with that of the neighbor’s kids. There are also some other parents who want their children to master everything, be it academic or extra-curricular, and that too, within the time-span that they decide. In the struggle for attaining excellence in everything, it is the children who are left feeling suffocated with the parental pressure, and their daily workload. Their self-esteem and confidence levels hit a low and they are gripped by fear in undertaking anything new. Gradually, the child falls into a life of sadness and depression thinking that he would always be the imperfect one, a misfit for his parents. An effective parenting is the one where expectations are balanced with care, love and emotional support, resulting in fewer behavior problems, higher academic achievements and lesser depression and anxiety. Problems appear when the parents become ‘pushy’ with unreasonable demands. Only a little push, in the right direction motivates the children to grow up as better achievers and performers. Let this be an eye-opener for all the parents because children are the citizens of tomorrow and hope of the future.
parenthood is a wonderful feeling for the parents. every parents want to give their children the best parenting thus during parenting they should keep few things in their minds such as; they first all of give regards to their children then only they would receive it back from them, they should be polite as well as disciplined but not being biased, overprotective and over disciplined, they should be open with the children and should understand the importance of a transparent and open discussion between them and their children, parents should try to cultivate good values in their children, values make a sound and wise personality of an individual, comparison and insecurities weaken the relationship between the parents and the children hence there should not be any space for those things in the parenting process, motivation and appreciation should be regularly given to the children so that they feel enthusiastic and active while doing every work, parents should give enough liberty to the children to explore and learn the things at their own.
