The way the parents behave with their child does have a direct impact on the attitude of him/her. Some parents are empathetic they talk politely and with much compassion but there are certain parents who tend to show a lot of their agitation on the child. Today’s life has become so busy and stressful that we knowingly or unknowingly impose our stress and tensions on the children. Particularly the fathers who are extremely busy in their office work bring back his whole official tension to the home in the evening, the effect of argument or disagreement with seniors or employees is easily seen in their behaviour when they come back home. While the child is eagerly waiting for the father to comeback, he/she is simply unaware that not the father but an agitated bundle of tensions and stress is coming back in the evening. We ignorantly display such an attitude to the child which should not be displayed to them in fact such as stress, frustration, irritation and anger. When the child sees his/her parents being so much agitated about something and comes to realize that the parents are overwhelmed about an issue in their lives; the child is assured to become a weak personality in the future. Because, by showing your agitation and frustration for any issues for that matter you are actually showing to your child your incompetency and lack of tolerance towards the struggles of life. Life is stressful and struggling these days, there are different issues the parents have to resolve at the workplace as well as at the home but that should not affect their behaviours or their competency to deal with those issues. Such kind of attitude feed the child with pessimistic thoughts and beliefs that problems can rule over us and we are slaves of them. It encourages the child not to become courageous but a dumb person who easily gets scared of the problems in life. Instead of this the parents should be very cautious about the display of their attitude and behaviour especially at the times of some problem or crisis; if the child would see the parents being persevarant and polite at any stressful time he/she would lock this very trait in the mind forever. And this would also help the child to build up a strong and confident personality who can face any struggle with sheer determination while maintaining a balance with work and family.
I liked the way you have written today's men / women problems . I agree that men shoulder a lot of responsibility and have to work hard and are stressed. But when a child has both parents working than it becomes very very tough for the mother too to keep patience and be tolerant. Well I have seen even house wives being intolerant and want a second help (maid) to look after the baby when the mother wants a ME time. Please suggest is this a good pattern of upbringing?
