I've been dating an Indian woman for about 3 months now, and I am of western decent. I'm starting to have very strong feelings for her, and she for me. However, she is in her mid-20's and her family is becoming extremely impatient with her still being single. They are setting her up to meet with candidates for arranged marriage, and she keeps rejecting them because she wants a love marriage (this is not the reason she gives though). As I mentioned though, the pressure from her family is becoming overwhelming for her, and she feels that she is in danger of getting disowned. I think that this woman is absolutely amazing. Time flies when we are together. We have the same sense of humor, and she has so many of the characteristics that I look for: she's independent, strong-willed, thoughtful, sweet, compassionate, and smart. That's what makes this so hard. I feel like if I had enough time to get to know her, I could fall in love with her and end up with her. Unfortunately though, time is something that we don't have a lot of. My gut feeling is that I have 6 months at the most before she is unable to withstand the pressure from her family. She is unable to tell her family that we are dating. It's not an issue with me being western, but with dating itself. If I were to propose to her, and they found out after the fact that we had dated, it would NOT be a major issue however. What I need is to find a way to buy her more time so that we can get to know each other better. Her family is not accepting her excuses for rejecting these guys anymore. I really care about this woman, and I want to get to know her better. I am worried about having my feelings grow even stronger, only to have her cave in to her family, though. Any advice, comments, or insight would be GREATLY appreciated.
You have put yourself in great trouble my friend. Only GOD can help you now! Unlike West, Indian women do not need a year or 2 of dating to consider marriage. They do not date people, they think they would not marry (most of them). You need to sit down with your love and ask her 'What now?" Only you 2 can solve it in a way acceptable to both of you. Btw, if everything else fails, I guess it would make sense for both of you to expose your relationship to her parents. Keep believing & All The Best!
Keep being friends with that Indian Girl until you can't anymore and then just tell her why you can't be friends with her when it's the right time. Good luck! Sorry I can't do more for you!!
