Women are loosing their status in India. Everytime it's a women who is cooking the food, it's only she who washes the clothes. She can't go outside homes without the permission of her husband. She is under the surveillance of her family for whole time. One voice comes out of the whole drama.." Why me ?, why me it's everytime ? Why can't guys do all this that a women is supposed to do? I also want to earn money . " and this has become the never ending debate. We have miscalculated women's worth here. What we are calling as a low - class and backward status is actually a position of CEO in the family. She keeps a check over the movements of family products, members of the family, ., If the movement is going towards a wrong place or there is any shortcoming in the product then she, the CEO, calls for the meeting of the members and analysis the product ( member culprit) to get into its problem. And finally she shoots towards the correction. . And this is how her FAMILY earns goodwill in the MARKET (society)'. In order to establish a successful company (family) she is required to do the ground work, as every CEO does. She cooks food, she cleans home, and I don't think that there is any problem in this. Everybody does the ground work to keep its partners and employees happy, so is she doing. If everyone kept on complaining like this then nothing will improve. Nobody can attain PERFECTION..!!! Yes, I do agree that women should be allowed to go out of homes and earn their dreams and passion, and there we are my friends, today many families are allowing there girls to go out and earn the name. They are allowed to enjoy. quite a very few people today controls the girls of their family. they are free birds now. But yes, they are always sought after to be a good manager in making first, family is of utmost importance after all. Boys can also manage the house , but here is the reason why it can't happen- Of course , boys have started helping their girls in household chores but you can't force them to do so on a regular basis, because they are not trained to do multi-tasking. they are not trained to manage the chores since their childhood. Remember your time when you were a little girl, you so hated doing household chores. You took time to manage the chores and family along with your profession as the time passed by. Then how can you expect a men to do everything of chores in a single moment. Give them some time. "Things can happen calmly but not harshly..." - always remember ..!!! So from here we can conclude that women do not face low status but are the best sought after CEO's . Here the question can arise why men can't Manage home. Then it's just one answer that I can give- someone has to do it. We can't debate over it now. If we kick started the debate then only one thing will happen- situation won't become different to the condition of our country. For a whole year we will be polling for the best manager of the family amidst the obvious quarell. And alas..! Family will sink inside the lake. You won't want to happen this thing with your family, I am sure you won't.. And mind you, I have already stated that men are not trained to adjust and manage the family. So if you want them to become the managers, just train your boys to manage the house from starting itself Here is one more thing that most of us neglect- the importance given to the girl on a highly prestigious day of the family. When a family owes a new house, a new television, vehicle, anything , then the girl of the family is asked to welcome the possession by doing aarti and tikka. Not only this, she is given a reward as "thanksgiving", because the family believes that the girl is the laxmi in their family and it's laxmiji's blessings in her form that they are achieving such a great heights in their life. A girl is never allowed to touch the feet of her parents and is neither allowed to touch or clean anything that is worn in their foot as they believe doing so will mark a sin in their life and they will land into hell after their life ends. There is the reason behind this mythology. There is the rule of Kanya Daan here in which parents donate their girl to grooms' father. Hence the girl is equivalent to devi here. Earlier women used to do purdah, but they don't do it now. Yes, many people still say that women should not unveil their purdah in front of the senior males (elder brother-in-law and father -in-law) . they take it as a biggest crime. well, it's only one thing i want to tell them- Give us the reason to do so and we will follow you if we find it appropriate..! and so far i havn't found the concrete reason. Thus, women are being liberal and enjoying their liberty to the fullest. Today, women are introduced casually with family friends by their male partners. They are free to mobilise. Now here i can sense the question about THE SAFETY OF WOMEN in your big eyes. well then tell me my friends..who is SAFE in INDIA today? it's like when a women challenges the authority of a psycic guy then he mutilate her in return harshly , confirming she won't repeat the mistake again and he has ruined her life as a REWARD . Also he has proved his so called strength in front of the whole world. But this happens with every other human, irrelevant of the sex. consider this, On 16 december 2012, when a girl got severly mutilated by the 6 psycics, the girl was accompanied by her boyfriend. And to everyone's surprise , the boy was also severly assaulted by the guys. both of them were thrown nude on the silent road. no passerby dared to help them. they were dying in chilled winter with the mental and physical injuries slurring over the top. people say that it's O.K. for a second that a boy got mutilated like that because he can re-live his life freely again. Nobody will question him. But a girl won't be able to live a normal life. She will be cursed for the next of her whole life. Then i have a question from them. Why can't she re-live again? Has she got mentally traumatised? Yes, she has got . But so did her male friend my friends. He was projected nude for whole 4-5 hours. It wasn't easy for him too my friends. he was also mentally traumatised and became psychologically misfit. has he discontinued her life? NO. he is still earning bread for his family. Now here again the people can run their brains and say that the WORLD will not let her live because she has lost her verginity. Yes, i agree. There is a dirty world out there who will see that innocent being with the criminal's eye. There are very low chances that she will get married into a good family. She needs a good partner to take care of her after her parents. YES, she won't get married. She will be rejected by those who once fought for her on jantar-mantar and india gate actively , probably because their parents won't allow them to marry a non-vergin girl. I won't ask the so called PARENTS and SOCIETY to change their thinking. But yes, I will certainly ask the victim's (girl's) parents to summon their strength and teach their girl to RE-LIVE her life alone. Make her psychologically strong and tell nothing wrong has happened to her and she is perfectly fine. Make sure that they are there with her when she is in need. Don't push her towards the grave and provoke her to end her life, because it was not her mistake that landed her here. YES, she is enduring the result of someone else's bad deed but she is certainly not out of her life. There is till some hope, there is still some LIGHT...! If things were have to end like this then it would have ended on that day only when "Lizzie Velasquez" has born. she was born handicapped. Doctors said that she won't live for longer. and if she did, she will be JUST A BURDEN ON EARTH. But my friends, she is an inspirational speaker today, topmost. she earned her degree from texas university. She won prizes for many of her novels. She was criticized , she was left alone, but she never eschewed. There are not enough words that can explain her twinges. They can only be felt. she has endured so much. I want to tell you my friends that inspite of being psychologically bruised up many a times she chose to LIVE. now if she can live why is it difficult for the mutiliated girl to re-live her life? Thus, every girl, every human has the right to mobilise . It is abled enough to face the dangers and come out of the horrified incidences. we just have to polish our childs from time to time regularly so that a GEM can be introduced to the country in their form. I am not supporting rape , i am just supporting the chances of re-living the life after the harsh circumstances..!! The world is beautiful, the life is beautiful. Don't waste it while COMPLAINING, rather LIVE IT !
