Breaking of relationships is never a great thing to happen in life, and thus divorce is also a painful bearing in all sense. When two people decide to part their ways, the ripples are felt not only by the couple, but a host of other people around them. And, children are at the receiving end in the most awful way. Kids seldom understand the nitty gritties of relationships that adults go through. Their understanding of relationship is in black and white and they do not understand the gray areas that provoke a marriage to break. Thus, making children understand the whys and hows of a divorce is a difficult issue, which results in affecting them in various ways.
Here are few ways divorce affects children.
Behavioral Problems
One of the most common repercussion that kid’s face after the divorce of their parents is change in their behavior. And, if the divorce has happened after some nasty fights and a disturbing court proceedings, the effect is far more grave and vicious. The child under such circumstances is more like to behave abnormally with erratic temper, stubbornness, aggressiveness, defensive attitude, lack of interest and also depression.
High Level of Stress and Anxiety
During and after the divorce of the parents, kids usually end up with high level of stress and anxiety to deal with. The very fact that now both their mom and dad are going to stay separately is a hard reality to come by. This stress leads to change several emotional and psychological changes in the child. While in some cases with constant effort and restoring a good environment the child can be brought back to normal. But in some cases though, the child might need expert counselling too. Stress and anxiety also end up affecting the child physical and mental health adversely.
Emotional Instability
Most kids who have gone through their parents divorce proceedings end up being emotionally unstable. After a point they tend to lose trust on people and are emotionally vulnerable. Emotionally these kids are wrecked. They are seldom able to understand and control their emotions. And so, become emotionally weak, which lands them up in various issues ahead in life.
Mistrust in Relationships
What you see, you imbibe that in life. This is probably the most common thing to be heard about parenting. When the kids see their parents run through a bitter relationship and then a divorce, they tend to develop a mistrust for relationship in their lives. Kids aren’t mature enough to understand that what has happened and why it has happened. All they take away from divorce is the fact that their parents couldn’t stay with each other. This builds a sense of mistrust in relationship. They find it difficult to believe in the fairness of a relationship and become cynical towards anything that comes their way. This is probably the biggest and the colossal effect of divorce on kids.
Overall Negativity in Life
A divorce and its proceedings, is never a good thing to happen. Even if the outcome is better for all, the intial happening is grossly negative in every possible sense. And so, with kids too, this breeds negativity all round. The children become bitter towards life, which mellows down with proper counselling. A child is extremely vulnerable to the negatively that it breeds, and this engulfs their life in a bigger and broader way.
