Being with someone, with whom you can share your deepest thoughts is a divine feeling and that is why, we long for that special one, with whom your life comes to a full circle.
However, we shouldn’t enter in a relationship, with the expectation of sailing smoothly through difficult times. Every relationship goes through a phase which might not be favourable for you two, you might face some very unexpected and displeasing situations, you might undergo a rough patch and that is when you feel like quitting your relationship because of certain disagreements.
In those times of doldrums, we fail to realise the fact that disagreements are a part of every healthy relationship as they signal the fact that both the people are able to freely express their opinions, which is very important. Having disagreements is not unusual but to not handle disagreements in a matured way might weaken your relationship.
Here are some ways in which you can handle disagreements –
Listen and understand
The root cause of most of the tiffs is that that we listen with the intent to reply and not to understand. E.g. You are a married man and one fine day, your wife restricts you from going out with your buddies, then try to understand the reason for the same, instead of tagging her as a control freak. She might need you to spend some quality time without any intention to restrict your freedom; at that moment, it is your responsibility to handle her disagreement in an empathetic way.
Introspect
In any disagreement, most of the time, we point out mistakes in the other person, intentionally or unintentionally. In doing so, we fail to realise the fact that we aren’t free from flaws and it is not our partner who is completely wrong. Introspection makes you realize your own faults so that you don’t repeat them in future. This way, you will never be unreasonably angry with your partner and would give him/her enough room to express his/her viewpoint freely
Agree to disagree
Don’t be under the notion that winning an argument will make you feel at peace as time and again, same things would come back to you and that might lead to endless arguments. Accepting things as they are lets you safeguard your relationship. Sometimes, you need to keep your ego aside, merely for the sake of your partner. You should be wise enough to not let your relationship be driven by the thought of winning or losing an argument
Be polite and let go of anger
Anger is your biggest enemy and any decision made in the state of exasperation doesn’t lead to best results. There might be times when you would want to prove your stance right, however, doing so in the state of rage would unknowingly prove you wrong. Therefore, do not lose your calm in an argument, even if you feel that your partner is wrong. Just communicate to him/her politely that you are not able to accept his/her viewpoint and beg to differ, discuss about your issues rather than venting your anger on your partner
There are numerous ways to resolve disagreements, if you really wish to stick around in your relationship then it is not hard to figure out those ways. So, do not let such differences in opinion overpower your healthy companionship.
