They say ‘Love is blind’. They speak truly. After all, what other emotion can make a person perform the deeds that love can? It can give a mother supernatural strength to save her child. It can make a person cross continents to be with their lover. It can lead to war, as happened over Helen of Troy.
And it can make a person lose themselves in the throes of passion with a married man or woman. However, loving a married person is akin to drinking from a poisoned chalice. It is doomed to fail – unless they break it off with their spouses to be with you, but even that is complicated.
So, how would you break off a relationship with a married person? Well, this is how:
Understand That You Are an Option:
No one wants to be an option. No one wants to be the second choice. Once you understand and accept that you are the second choice, you will realize that pursuing the relationship is futile. It will only lead to heartbreak in the future. The man or woman may say that they need you, but they will always be by their better half’s side when it comes to their social life. They will always put them first. And if they have children, then the children will always come first for them. Thus, you will be side-lined, leading to misery. This will be magnified if you want more than just a physical relationship, more than just sex.
It May Fizzle & Burn Out
You should resign yourself to the possibility that the relationship will fizzle and burn out quickly. If they are capable of cheating on their spouse – for whatever reason – then they may get bored of you sooner and move on to the next partner. If you become too emotionally invested in them, you may only get your hands burnt.
You need to realize that you may not be their first – or only affair – and once they lose interest, once that spark dies, they will leave you, either for the next person, or to go back to their spouse.
Thus, it is better to keep your emotions in check, and break it off before you are in too deep and fall down the painful abyss full of misery and angst.
What If Their Spouse Finds Out?
This is one problem that will always stay in the back of your mind during the entire affair. And if it is found out, no reason will be sufficient to calm their spouse. Blaming it on their partner will only anger them further.
There is a good chance of getting a broken nose, and a greater chance of having a court case filed against you.
Their spouse has essentially betrayed their trust, and you are obviously complicit in it.
Thus, it is often better to realize this and break off the affair – unless their partner is willing to break off and divorce with them for you, the chances of which are very low.
In the end, make a firm decision to cut ties, communicate it clearly to them, and break it off. After all, a clean cut, though sharp and painful, heals best.
