In India, marriage is not just another ceremony where 200-300 people gather to congratulate the bride and the groom, enjoy the feast and go back to their homes. It is rather a ritual, a custom and a sacred affair in which two people decide to form a bond for a lifetime. Yes, indeed it is a lifetime partnership between the two souls who decide to live with each other’s good and not so good habits, like & dislikes and in sickness and health.
Despite huge dominance of western culture, marriage is still considered as a sacrosanct affair and that is the reason why married people in India think twice before separation. It is very important for two people to ask some very basic but very significant questions to their prospective partner, in order to avoid any hassles that they might go through after marriage :
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Hobbies, Likes & Dislikes
By getting married, you are entering into a lifelong relationship that will have its own demands. Imagine a situation where you are not comfortable with a particular habit of your partner and on the top of that, you will have to live with it everyday. No doubt, it will make things difficult for you both, therefore it is important to ask each other about their likes, dislikes, interests that would give a fair idea of each other’s habits.
It is rightly said that opposites attract and two opposite people fill the gap for each other but at the same time, it is good if some of your interests align as this would lead to less of fights. E.g. If one of you is very outgoing and social while the other one is extremely introvert, there are high chances that you both won’t be able to enjoy each other’s company at a social gathering as the way you both would perceive things around would be different. While one of you will have good time interacting with the people around, the other one might find it a daunting affair to mingle up with so many people.
Career choices
We no more live in an era where the male member use to be the sole bread winner in the family. These days women are equally ambitions and capable of running a family so it is good to ask about each other’s long term career goals. It is not necessary that the career goals of two people should align, they can surely be way too different but it is important to support your better half in achieving his/her goals.
Kids
Children play an important role in making the bond between two individuals stronger but if one of you wants them and other one does not then such disconnect would negatively impact the marital bond. At the same time, it is important to discuss when do you want kids. Especially from a girl’s standpoint, if you don’t want to start a family in the initial years of marriage (2-4 years) then it is better to communicate the same to your partner without any hesitation. As a guy, if you feel that you are not capable enough to take the responsibility of kids, it is absolutely alright to wait than to make your’s and your partner’s life burdensome.
Frequency of vacation
If you are an avid traveller then you would want your companion to travel with you as often as you do. But, if your partner is more keen on staying indoors then unwillingly, you will have to give up on not all but some of your travel plans. There are people to whom travelling gives immense pleasure and if situations force them to put an end to it, they find it difficult to cope up with it. On the contrary, if your partner is equally inclined towards travel then you can together accomplish your travel plans and make your camaraderie stronger.
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Spending habits & Savings
Your financial condition depends a lot on how you spend your hard earned money and how much you save. If you are planning a secure future for your family then you need to save today and for that, your partner’s support is indispensable. You need not ask anyone his/her bank balance or weekend getaway budget but via general chit chats, you can try and gauge how extravagant or how frugal the person is.
Well I hope this article was a food for thought for the one’s who are planning to tie the knot soon or looking out for a prospect. So do not hesitate to ask anything that concerns you right now or might have huge significance in future, if you are planning to be with someone for a lifetime then even very small things hold great importance in a marital life.
