13 things parents need to do to create a trust relationship with their children

Here are the thirteen things parents need to do to create a trust relationship with their children          

1. Let them talk– Let your children talk because that’s the first step in making them learn that they can trust you. If they talk to you openly, it’ll be easy to build a transparent relationship with your children.
2. Discuss, don’t argue– Try to discuss things rather than reaching a conclusion straight away. Just because you are a parent doesn’t mean children can’t have a different perspective. Admit it and discuss.
3. Do not bribe your children-It’s easy to pass a chocolate to your kid since he fared well in his exam or because he passed you a glass of water or simply because he behaved well the entire day. But that pulls them away from their responsibilities. Let them do things without making it a deal.
4. Don’t fight in front of them– It’s sometimes unavoidable to not fight in front of your kids but avoid as much as you can because in anger, we sometimes end up saying or expressing things which we do not intend. But children wouldn’t be able to distinguish between what you did and what was intended. They might eventually follow your way of doing things.
5. Don’t threaten your children– Find better ways to stop them from doing something; threatening them would make them get used to it. Not only this, they may as well use it as a tool against you because they have seen that it works.
6. No shame-game– Some parents think that it works better if they humiliate their children in front of their friends or teachers but this isn’t a healthy practice and this might have adverse effect on them.

7. Time for everything – Telling your children not to watch television or stay away from mobile phones is not always a good idea. Make time for everything – be it television, family discussions, mobile phone, fast food, and everything that they wish to do as well as what you wish them to do.
8. Make them participate in chores – It’s not just a way to make them realize their responsibilities but also to make them learn a task that would help them work successfully in a team in the years to come. Let them help you in the kitchen or in the cleaning process.
9. Expect but don’t go overboard – Expectations keep us going, and help us become our better selves but sometimes, they can backfire too. Too many expectations may make your children feel pressurized which may lead to under performance.
10. Value efforts: Life isn’t always about winning or losing, sometimes, one needs to value individual efforts too. With children, one needs to be extra careful while judging on the basis of failures. In a world where people are busy in a mad race, it’s sometimes good to just let your children be. You stay there to support and appreciate their efforts.
11. Direct your children rationally- It’s easy to be authoritarian but not that easy to be authoritative. By being rational in your approach, you’d be able justify `your decisions in front of your children, and they’d be able to understand your point of you in a more positive light.

12. Be consistent, keep your promises – It’s easy to get influenced and change your mind but once you’ve taken any decision regarding your children, do not show that you’re indecisive and unsure about your own take.

13. Family time is precious – It’s important for you to understand and to make your children understand that family time is important and above everything. This will naturally help them value family and values related to them.